Life wasn't meant to feel this much like hard work.
Counselling and coaching for men who are working flat out, doing their best, and still feel like something's missing.
Who I work with
You don't mind hard work. You never have. That's partly why you're here.
You get up. You crack on. You do your best for the people who rely on you. Then you do a bit more.
But somewhere along the way, life has started to feel more and more like hard work. Not the doing part, but the feeling. This was me. Before training as a counsellor I thought therapy was for people who had a problem. This is a space for the man who works hard.
I work with men in their 20s to 40s who are ready for more than just busy. Neurodivergent or neurotypical, you’re welcome here. I’m dyslexic myself and embrace my neurodivergent traits, so I’m happy to talk them through if they’re relevant to our work. You just need to want more from your life.
You might not call it stress. You'd probably just say you're busy. But you know something's missing.
About me
I'm Ashley. Born and bred in Dorset, and an NCPS-accredited Counsellor and Transformational Coach.
Before this, I spent over 20 years working in education, social care and hospitality. I've been a Head Chef in a high-pressure kitchen, Social Care worker for adults with addiction and homelessness, Mentor and Support Worker to young people with complex needs. I have been an Educator for teens excluded from school or unable to access mainstream and I was also a Forest School instructor where my love of working outdoors began. With many other jobs in-between.
So, you could say I have been there, got the t-shirt.
Busy all the time, torn between responsibilities, and not enjoying most of it.
Then one sentence changed everything. Read my story on the Live Full page.
Today I work for myself, in a way that fits my life, with over five years in private practice. I also coach mindset for the Commando Conditioned Fitness community where I have the privilege of supporting veterans, dads, athletes and entrepreneurs to get the most from their lives.
Counselling and Coaching Why I do both.
Most men think therapy is for people with a problem. Whilst most coaches sell you more of the more. I do something different.
Counselling is the depth. It's time with someone who has no agenda and needs nothing from you. Space to understand the reactions that don't help, the emotions you get stuck on and the decisions you regret. It's how we find where "life is hard work" really comes from.
Coaching is the momentum. Once you can see what's been driving you, we move. We get clear on what you actually want, and we go and build it.
One without the other only gets you halfway. Counselling without coaching can leave you understanding everything and changing nothing. Coaching without counselling can have you chasing goals that were never yours. Together, you get to the root of it. Then you grow something new.
How we can work together
Online over WhatsApp video, wherever you are in the UK.
Walk and Talk, outdoors near Bere Regis 10 minutes from Wareham.
In-person in Parkstone, Poole (limited availability)
